Hi. My name is Missy, and I’m a yeller.
I’ve always been a yeller. I yell to my kids and at my kids. My voice raises when I become irritated and frustrated. I grew up with parents who were yellers, and unfortunately the apple didn’t fall far from the tree.
With my kids homeschooling and being around all day there are definitely times when they get on my nerves and get on each other’s nerves. I’ve been yelling a lot. I don’t like it, my kids don’t like it, and it isn’t really constructive for any of us.
A couple months ago, I came across a link to The Orange Rhino Challenge. The name intrigued me, but what interested me even further was the concept of yelling less and loving more. I love my kids. I mean, I crazy love them, but me yelling at them isn’t a loving gesture. I don’t ever want them to think that I don’t love them as much as I do.
After a particularly hard week last week, I really started looking at The Orange Rhino Challenge. It’s easy to say, “I’m not ever going to yell at my kids again,” but in reality it’s not that simple. How do you break that cycle? Where do I start? What do I do when I feel the yelling starting?
I also wanted to learn what to do in place of yelling…how do I get my kids’ attention?
The genius behind The Orange Rhino, an anonymous SAHM of 4 boys, has all these bases covered. She gives steps on how to get started under Take The Challenge tab, and there are 100 alternatives to yelling under the Orange Rhino Tips tab.
To follow her getting started tip #3, I’m making my public goals announcement here:
- I will track my yelling and my triggers for the rest of this week.
- Next week I’ll yell 50% less than this week using the alternatives given.
- Week three will be my first no-yell week-7 days of no yelling.
- If I do yell during week three, I’ll have to start my 7 days over.
- I’ll revisit my goals after those three weeks, and create new ones.
I’m reminded that no matter how long you’ve been a parent (over 15 years for me), there’s always room for improvement. I don’t want to be a good parent to my kids, I want to be a GREAT parent. They want to have a great one too.
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This is not a sponsored post. I simply want my kids to know I love them as much as I do and to communicate with them in a more loving way.